Understand the change process in order to take your clients through it

These excerpts are from Lynn Lott’s Positive Divorce workshop, April 3, 2009, in Minneapolis, Minnesota. In her own words:

The first part of change is desire. People come to you because they do want help. Your job is to help them gain awareness, the second step in the process. They’re stuck in their own private logic. Be the little guy on their shoulder pointing out what they are doing. The third step is acceptance which translates to accept that what is, is. I have yet to find a simple way to help people get there, but when they get to acceptance, they start seeing options, the fourth step in the process. They start seeing the world in a different way.

Here is what I see as the steps along the change process:

Follow your dreams

Surround yourself with those who will love and support you

Turn life into an adventure

Connect with family

Get moving and active and try things

If you think it, say it

Make time for friends

Be ready for surprises

Welcome the unexpected

It is OK to beg and whine (for a little while)

Create routines that work for you

Make time to play and learn

Meditate

Revisit the familiar

Bad is bad, so don’t sugar coat it

Life is a circle and endings are rarely the end

This is hard. There is work involved. But you made the right decision. I’m here to help you through it.

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